Good Giving Up - Greenough Park, Missoula, Montana

"So often our focus is on supporting the identities and structures that were put in place for us by the more powerful damaged people in the family as caricatures of themselves. Giving up even one of these identities can be threatening to the organism. But the willingness to change comes when the pain of staying where you are is too great….”  -Anne Lamott, p. 212 of Almost Everything

 

Stuck - Rattlesnake Creek, Missoula, Montana

"…the natural fixation that you can rescue your kids, and ought to. 
Your good ideas for them would certainly straighten them out and help them make healthier choices. These would help you enjoy life more, too, so what’s the harm in your little suggestions, demands, funding?

The harm is in the unwanted help or helping them when they need to figure things out for themselves.

Help is the sunny side of control.

There is nothing outside them, nothing they can date, buy, or achieve, that will fill the hole in side them or help them hit the reset button. 
But it’s very productive of you to try, and try, although they tend to get sicker, as do you. Plus, they start to hate you. So there’s that." 
-Anne Lamott, p.57 of Almost Everything

School of Life - Rattlesnake Creek, Missoula, Montana

"If the earth is forgiveness school, family is your postdoctoral fellowship." 
-Anne Lamott, p.203 of Almost Everything

Great Expectations - Rattlesnake Creek, Missoula, Montana

"Families are hard partly because of expectations, that the people in them are supposed to mesh, and expectations are resentments under construction…
You can’t hide much within the cell membrane of a house…It shocks me how hurtful and annoying we can be to the people in our families. The weight of the family makes us helpless, and in trying to make sure the helplessness doesn’t utterly flatten us, we may throw the dart at someone else." 
-Anne Lamott, p. 212 of Almost Everything

Space For Legit Joy - Rattlesnake Creek via Greenough Park, Missoula, Montana

In these very odd times of space and quiet,
  may you seek and find genuine joy.
Toward that end, a few thoughts:
 
"That we are designed for joy is exhilarating, within reach, now or perhaps later today, after a nap, as long as we do not mistake excitement for joy.

Joy is good cheer. My partner says joy and curiousity are the same thing. 
Joy is always a surprise, & often a decision.

Joy is portable. Joy is a habit, and these days,
    it can be a radical act.”

-Anne Lamott, p.70 of Almost Everything

On Awakening - Along Hwy 200 before Sun River, Montana

“Everything good begins with awareness, whether awakening
 to the momentousness of the present 
  or to the damage we are causing.”

 -Anne Lamott, from "Almost Everything - Notes on Hope", p 91-92 

Unplugged Reflections - Clark Fork River Near East Missoula, Montana

"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you."

-Anne Lamott, ch. 4 of Almost Everything

(& that is the entire chapter! 
Highly recommend this lovely little book...abundant fodder for rumination!)

On Joy - Near Simms, Montana

"That we are designed for joy is exhilarating, within reach, now or perhaps later today, after a nap, as long as we do not mistake excitement for joy. 
Joy is good cheer. My partner says joy and curiosity are the same thing. 
Joy is always a surprise, and often a decision.
Joy is portable. Joy is a habit, and these days, it can be a radical act."
-Anne Lamott, p. 70-71 of Almost Everything

On Light, Spirit,Hope - Marias River, MT-I-15, Near Shelby, Montana

"Light...illuminates both things we want to see and don't want to see....Light is energy you can't touch or corral, which is also the nature of spirit....Light, candles, full moons magnify spirit that is in the wings...." 
-Anne Lamott, p. 21 of Almost Everything