"Families
are hard partly because of expectations, that the people in them are supposed
to mesh, and expectations are resentments under construction…You can’t hide much within the cell membrane of a house…It shocks me how hurtful and annoying we can be to the people in our families. The weight of the family makes us helpless, and in trying to make sure the helplessness doesn’t utterly flatten us, we may throw the dart at someone else."
-Anne Lamott, p. 212 of Almost Everything
